Looks May Be Deceiving
A couple weeks ago we went out to eat at a local restaurant where frankly we spend too much time. Kids eat free though - so it's a popular choice for us!
We were seated at a table, rather than a booth, which put us very close to the family of 6 sitting behind Jon and Dominic. It was a set of parents, a set of Grandparents, and their two children.
During the course of our meal, Jon got up to take a phone call, so of course I stayed at the table with the kids. The Grandfather at the adjacent table struck up a conversation. He was asking about the kids - general questions. Not a big deal. Jon returned to the table and the man kept asking questions - are we from the area. We answered yes, but didn't ask him in return -- we want to continue with our meal. He answered anyway, telling us he was from out of state. He was getting to the point of being annoying. He had his own table to converse with - why was he continuing to interrupt our meal. He was nice enough, to be certain, but he had crossed the "nice" line and was now in the "stop bugging us" category.
As we got up to leave, he stopped Jon and asked, "Can I give you my card?" Jon took it, and we walked out the door. I'm sure my face had a crazy look on it as we got to the lobby and I asked, "Why in the world would he randomly give you his card?" Jon had already put the card in his pocket and didn't dig it out to answer the question, instead simply saying, "I don't know."
Fast forward a day. Jon returned home from work and said, "You know that guy who gave me a card at the restaurant last night? It was a business evangelism card." Essentially the card said call me if you want to know Jesus. It wasn't a tract, but basically, it was.
We had a good laugh at it. Jon's presence can often be foreboding - he happened to be in jeans and a long-sleeved thermal t-shirt with "graffiti" type writing on it that day. It wasn't graffiti, but was likely interpreted as such. And Dominic had just been given a fresh mohawk (see photo below).
Apparently this gentleman looked at us and thought, "They need to know the Lord."
He was right - we DO need to know the Lord. But thankfully, we DO know the Lord.
The more I thought about that interaction, the more it really bothered me. He looked at our appearance and made assumptions. He struck up a conversation with us, but didn't get to the heart of the matter. Then based on assumptions, slipped his card into our hands and left the rest up to us.
Two things bothered me:
1) The assumptions he made couldn't have been more wrong -- yet how often do I do the same thing? How often do I judge a person based on how they look? And knowing this -- knowing that people judge based on appearances, I always try to present myself and my family in a positive light, reflecting God. But this man apparently didn't see that.
2) If you're going to share Jesus, share Jesus! He was bold enough to interrupt our meal and ask questions. He was even bold enough to offer his card. But if the purpose in doing all this was to spread the Gospel, then he totally missed the mark! Think about how much more blessed we ALL would have been if he'd have started a conversation about Jesus, and we ALL could have praised Him together. Now granted, I could have done the same -- brought Jesus into the conversation. But my point is -- his whole point in starting conversation was to give us his card. Why didn't he just tell us what he wanted to tell us, rather than beating around the bush?
What are your thoughts on "Business Evangelism?" Has anything similar ever happened to you?
This entry was posted on Tuesday, February 09, 2010
You can follow any responses to this entry through
the RSS 2.0 feed.
You can leave a response,
or trackback from your own site.
5 comments:
I have never heard of business evangelism before reading your post but I have heard of making assumptions about people based on their looks. I hate to say it...I do it too. And I am sure people do it to me. It's really sad.
This is a good reminder that I need to look past the clothes and the hair when I meet someone and really focus on his/her heart.
That's really what it's all about anyway.
Thanks for this...
Erin
It would make me feel as though he was trying to sneakily get me to buy something from him... Give me the impression that "I'm being nice to you because I want to sell you Jesus. Here's my card, give me a call..." Thinking that, though, would mean I'm judging his book by his cover too.
What if he had asked "Do you know of a great church in the area, our stay may extend into the weekend..."
What if you had asked him if he was going to stay over the weekend, and invited his family to attend church with you?
It is sad that your family was judged simply by how you look. If you'd walked in wearing what Jesus wore, sandals and all, you'd have been judged too. Makes me wonder if the people I work with know I have a heart for Jesus from my brief time with them. Those in my work section, yes, what about the rest of the employees I encounter? Definitely gives me food for thought...
I'm sorry that he didn't get to know you long enough to see that you and Jon are wonderful Godly parents raising a family who loves Jesus, and you're an example of that to so many people.
Sarah...great post...I've never had this happen to me, but I agree with everything you said. We shouldn't ASSUME anything based on someone's circumstances or appearance. Jesus reigns in many places and many faces...praying we share His love without judgement.
Blessings!
Cherie
God does the saving, not us. I will pray for this man-He needs to ease way up on his delivery!!
If you are living right, and God is the center/light of your life; then you should have to use VERY FEW words in telling people about Jesus...In my opinion.
(or hand out business cards)
Sorry this man doesn't know you, girl.
While I completely agree that it "appears" he judged based on appearances...shouldn't this situation be looked at another way? Maybe he was NOT looking at Little D as a future hoodlum, but he was setting out to do what Jesus told him to do...go out and proclaim the gospel. Granted he did it on a business card, but he was trying to at least establish that relationship. Totally playing devil's advocate, but do you think the disciples asked people ahead of time if they were believers? Nope. They didn't, and we shouldn't either.
I give that guy A LOT of credit for being willing to do something like this...to step out and talk to a stranger to just begin establishing a relationship of some kind. Think of Debra from SKODAM...she didn't go to the shelter and only talk to those that "appeared" to be non-believers, she talked to them all and prayed for them all. We are not called to be a light to only those that appear to need it.
All that to say, I would have had the same reaction as you in the restaurant...the "please leave me alone" look and all. But looking at this from a different perspective? I would have had the same response, but at the same time, why should it have been his responsibility to find out your family is a family of believers...
Hmmmmmmm, this has given me a lot to think about (and I hope my comment here does make some sense). Thanks for making me think!! (and love the mohawk by the way!!)
Post a Comment